Although I hate to admit it, I am a control addict. I try to control whatever situation I find myself in. For example, when I am on a long road trip and someone else is driving, I cannot fall asleep. Even if I am totally exhausted, somehow in my mind, I believe that if an accident or something else were to occur, me being awake would somehow stop it from happening. The reality is that if something was to happen, I would not be able to stop it or change it from happening. Plain and simple, it’s a struggle.
I heard this expression for the first time recently: the illusion of control. It blew my mind. When you think about it, we never really have control over situations. All we have control over is our thoughts, actions and reactions. What a humbling yet freeing thought.
When it comes to relationships specifically, many times our need to feel like we are in control stems from fear and our own insecurities.
” Can you safeguard your breath , in the night while you sleep? Keep your heart beating steady and sure?” – Beggars Thrice.
God is the only one who has control. When we try to take over that control we fail miserably. When we try to force our control over people, places or things, it is just an illusion and does not help any of us. So let go and let God because we never had control in the first place.
Accidental Harmony 